Do you feel that there are power games in your relationships? Or that sooner or later they become destructive? These are manifestations of Pluto in the 7th House.

“I used to be so dependent on the guys I was in a relationship with. I don’t know why, because I wasn’t raised that way. If I looked at myself at 19, I would shake myself and be like, ‘Wake up. You are way too smart for this.’”

Kourtney Kardashian – Pluto in 7th House

The Meaning of Pluto

Pluto generally feels like a very unpleasant energy. Wherever this planet is in our birth chart, we go through crises that never seem to leave us. Very few are interested in investigating Pluto, so… congratulations! You have dared to enter the world of shadows!

Why are we going through crisis? Pluto symbolizes death and rebirth. With Pluto we go through a metamorphosis. It’s kind of like the werewolf when the full moon rises. The triggers of this change are in the area of life symbolized by the astrological house in which it is found. When Pluto is activated, behaviors that we have repressed come to the surface in every possible way.

Although it feels unpleasant, it is a great opportunity to get to know our instinctual nature and see who we really are, since this will allow us to transform what does not allow us to progress.

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Pluto awakens our instinctual reactions so that we make them conscious and thus transform what does not allow us to progress.

The difference between the natal position and the transit of Pluto through the houses, is that the natal position indicates the area of life where our evolution will focus in the present incarnation, while the transit of Pluto activates temporary processes that assist our evolutionary path.

The power of transformation that Pluto represents is experienced both individually and collectively. This is a planet that moves very slowly: it takes 248 years to travel the zodiacal wheel and stays in each sign between 12 and 31 years. In this sense, we are all part of a group that will evolve the characteristics of the sign where Pluto is when we are born. At the individual level, we live this process within the area of life (or astrological house) where Pluto is located.

When Pluto is in the 7th House

The 7th House represents the realm of relationships. Here we see the way we associate with others, the ideal characteristics of those with whom we seek to form a relationship, our way of forming agreements.

When Pluto is in the 7th House, we feel an intense desire to form relationships. The goal here is to be able to know oneself through comparison with those with whom we associate. Within us there are ancient behavior patterns that need to be transformed to achieve balanced relationships. When Pluto is in this position, we seek to associate with those who, in some way or another, seem to want to destroy us.

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The transformation process that Pluto symbolizes in the 7th House brings to the surface all the relational habits that need to be abandoned or transmuted into something that serves our present needs. These behavior patterns come from the ancestral memories that run through our DNA and that manifest as an impossible force to resist. We are drawn to individuals who awaken in us the darkest parts of our own being, which we generally project onto the other.

Power plays in relationships play a huge role with this Pluto position. When we enter into a relationship it is as if we lose our identity or disappear. Then the struggle to be taken into account by the other begins. Sexual attraction may be what sustains this relationship long enough that we can go through all the unhealthy behaviors that need to surface in order to become aware of them. That is why in many cases, individuals with this position remain in relationships that do not make them happy. Despite the pain they go through, they are physically attracted to their partner with such intensity that not even they understand it. This compulsion towards unhealthy relationships aims to show us our own unconscious behaviors, especially in relation to the manipulation and / or control that we exert over others and ourselves when we feel that we lose personal power or fear abandonment.

The cruelty that can be experienced in these relationships is a reflection of the fear of being abandoned. It is a way of controlling the situation, since, if we are “bad” with the other, the possible abandonment that we fear so much will not take us by surprise. We are the ones who seek rejection, consciously or unconsciously. In this way, we feel that we have been the ones who have ended the relationship even if it is the other who leaves it. It is a self-imposed psychological “trick” born of the survival instinct indicated by Pluto in the 7th House. In any case, these fears are the product of not knowing exactly what we are looking for in relationships and it will be through time and crises what we allow us to understand and transform this aspect of our being.

Pluto in the 7th House also indicates an innate ability to understand power games in relationships. The novel and the film “Dangerous Liaisons” are a wonderful description of the psychological depth of the author Pierre Choderlos de Laclos in this matter. Choderlos de Laclos has Pluto conjunct Mercury in Scorpio, followed by Mars and Venus in the same sign.

Vicomte de Valmont : Why do you suppose we only feel compelled to chase the ones who run away?

Marquise de Merteuil : Immaturity?

Dangerous Liaisons

It is very important to note that this position of Pluto like all the other positions of the birth chart form a perfect scheme. A single planet does not define our complete Self. Pluto serves the whole and in order to understand its purpose we have to look at the birth chart in its entirety.